Where did you get your needs and values?

We all have many needs and values, but everyone is different and your values may be different to those of other people around you. That doesn’t make them wrong, just different. Most of our needs and values are acquired as we grow up and reflect those of the people closest to us during that period. However, our experiences also form strong values as we make judgments about what is important to us.

When you form a relationship, the compatibility of your needs and values will contribute to the strength of that relationship. The plain fact is that we all have needs, and our needs are legitimate. The problem, though, is that many of us may confuse the concept of neediness, something very different, with having real and legitimate needs that can be reasonably met!

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Tell the Stories of Your Life

July 15, 2014

Did you know that most of us are naturally predisposed to hear, remember, and tell stories? And our stories have themes:  family history, births, deaths, education, food and recipes, grandparents, journeys, romance, military (war) stories and many more. So where does one begin to tell one’s stories or start writing them down? How does one […]

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Steps to Help Your Spouse Back into the Workforce

July 8, 2014

In these uncertain economic times, more and more husbands and wives find themselves having the, “Should I return to work?” or, “Should you return to work?” conversation. Serious times call for serious choices and decisions. While many couples are willing to make the tough choice to get back into the workforce, they have no idea […]

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Relationships Based on Fear Never Feel Good and Always End Badly!

July 1, 2014

Resist creating relationships because it is safe and you are afraid. Acting from fear can never result in the rich, comfortable relationship that is your heart’s desire. Avoid making decisions about love relationships based on fear, disillusionment, or a belief that you have to settle. Resist acting on the fear that you aren’t going to […]

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6-Point Plan to Fanning Flames of Romance and Passion

June 24, 2014

There are many myths about sex and romance in long-term relationships.  There are also some universal truths and contemporary theories that should inform your personal attitudes and behaviors, and your responsibilities and obligations to your beloved and your relationship. You have no doubt longed for that “early time” in your relationship to return.  So often […]

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Oh no! Not the Big Wedding ~ Unless You Get Basic Marriage Education First

June 17, 2014

Wedding season is now in full swing! Newlyweds throughout the world spend more time, energy and money on their weddings than on building their relationships and divorce-proofing their marriages! According to the Journal of Family Psychology, premarital education is associated with higher levels of marital satisfaction, lower levels of destructive conflicts and higher levels of […]

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This Bride Walks Down the Aisle and Has Everyone in Tears

June 10, 2014

If ever there’s a moment in a girl’s life when she’s guaranteed to be the center of attention, it’s when she’s walking down the aisle at her wedding. This bride took advantage of a captive audience to bring the house down and do something very special for her future husband. Everyone was in tears – […]

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Declare June Marriage Renewal Month

June 3, 2014

“Often people attempt to live their lives backwards: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want so that they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then, do what you need to do, […]

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What to Say to Someone Who is Grieving

May 27, 2014

What do you say to someone whose life comes crashing down around him or her; whose life, as they knew it, is forever and profoundly changed? The first thing to really recognize is that when someone experiences the death of a loved one, the loss is so pervasive, the pain so excruciating, that there are […]

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Your Marriage is Like a Tabletop With Four Sturdy Legs

May 20, 2014

Coupleship is a way to perceive and structure a long-term, primary monogamous relationship. Emotionally intelligent couples have certain things in common.  They are committed to mutual and reciprocal respect, encouragement and affirmation; they can easily and elegantly offer and receive an apology; and they speak with each other in feeling vocabulary that keeps them open […]

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